(Excerpt from NOT ANOTHER BREAKUP BOOK)
Letting go isnât easy.
In fact, it can be one of the hardest emotional choices youâll ever have to make, not because you want to stay in pain, but because part of you still hopes, still wonders, still clings to what couldâve been.
If youâve gone No ContactâŚ
If youâve tried to move forward but your heart keeps reaching backâŚ
If you know itâs over but still feel stuckâŚ
These questions are for you.
This is an exercise taken directly from my book, NOT ANOTHER BREAKUP BOOK, a step-by-step guide designed to help you reset, reclaim, and rebuild after heartbreak.
Ask these three questions slowly.
Honestly, and with your hand over your heart if you need to.
Then, read the affirmations aloud. Let them settle in. You may feel emotions rise, thatâs okay. That means healing is happening.
This question helps you face whatâs really keeping you attached.
Sometimes itâs the fantasy of what the relationship couldâve been.
Other times, itâs the fear of starting over⌠the comfort of familiarity⌠or the feeling that if you let go, it means the love you gave didnât matter.
Why itâs important:
Naming what youâre holding onto makes it easier to release because once you name it, itâs no longer just a feeling, it becomes something you can face, understand, and finally let go of.. You canât let go of what youâre still pretending isnât there.
Maybe youâve stopped sleeping well.
Maybe your focus is off.
Maybe you canât fully show up in your friendships, your work, or your self-care because part of you is still emotionally tied to the past.
Why itâs important:
This question brings you back to right now because holding on doesnât just affect your heart⌠it affects your life. And you deserve to live fully, not halfway.
Letting go is not forgetting.
Itâs not pretending it never happened.
Itâs choosing peace over pain. Itâs choosing your future over a past that canât be changed.
Why itâs important:
When you reframe letting go as an act of self-love, not loss, it becomes a gift not a punishment. It opens space for healing, clarity, and peace to return.
Speak these over yourself.
Even if you donât fully believe them yet.
Even if your voice shakes.
Say them anyway and keep saying them until your heart starts to catch up.
đď¸ âI deserve peace, and letting go is my act of self-love.â
đď¸ âI am releasing my past so that I can fully embrace my future.â
Letting go isnât weakness.
Itâs strength.
Itâs you saying: I matter more than what broke me.
And if youâre struggling with this part of the process, youâre not alone, but you are capable.
This is just one of many reflection tools I share in NOT ANOTHER BREAKUP BOOK, a step-by-step recovery guide to help you get your mind, heart, and power back â for good.