The number one way to distract yourself after a breakup is not shopping (though, yes, retail therapy feels like a solution until your credit card says otherwise).
Itâs not jumping into a situationship.
And no, as much fun as it sounds, itâs not booking a âget away from his memoryâ girls' trip to Tulum.
Sure, those things might offer temporary relief like putting a cute little Band-Aid on a gaping emotional wound, but they donât actually help you heal.
And they definitely donât set you up to transform.
So what is the number one way?
Creating routines that exclude your ex and include your evolution.
Thatâs right, healing routines.
Right now, your ex is probably renting space in your mind rent-free.
Every thought, every memory, every "what if" keeps you emotionally tied to him.
A routine interrupts that cycle and redirects your energy toward your peace of mind, your health, and your becoming.
Breakups can affect your mental health, your sleep, your immune system, and even your digestion. Yep, heartbreak can literally make you sick.
Routines bring back structure, reminding you when to eat, when to rest, and when to simply care for yourself. Structure creates stability, and stability brings healing.
Anyone can go to the gym and cry on the treadmill. But weâre not just trying to pass time, weâre trying to rebuild.
Your routines should do more than keep you busy.
They should bring you back to life or, even better, into the version of you that your ex never met but shouldâve feared.
Letâs talk about what real reinvention looks like, and no, itâs not just âdrink water and go to Pilates.â These routines help you reshape your days, your identity, and your joy:
Instead of rushing into the chaos, begin with calm.
Try this:
âI am still whole. I am still worthy. And this new day belongs to me.â
Let each sip remind you:
You donât need to be in a relationship to feel loved.
Donât work out just to sweat; move your body to release stuck energy.
Try this:
Evenings are when the memories hit hardest. Letâs change that narrative.
Try this:
Try this:
⢠Set the mood: candlelight, music, and your favorite meal (yes, even if you ordered it).
⢠Dress up just for you, no reason, no occasion, just because youâre worth it.
⢠Do something indulgent: a bubble bath, your favorite movie, journaling with wine, or a solo sunset walk.
Because you are still worthy of love, effort, and beauty, especially from yourself.
The number one way to distract yourself after a breakup isnât an escape, itâs a reintroduction to who you really are.
Your routines? Theyâre not just distractions. Theyâre declarations.
âIâm still here. I still matter. And Iâm not just getting over him â Iâm becoming someone unforgettable.â